28 Feb Finding your passion is overrated
The common complaint among a lot of people is that they need to ‘find their passion.’
I call bullshit. You already found your passion, you’re just ignoring it. Seriously, you’re awake 16 hours a day, what the fuck do you do with your time? You’re doing something, obviously. You’re talking about something. There’s some topic or activity or idea that dominates a significant amount of your free time, your conversations, your web browsing, and it dominates them without you consciously pursuing it or looking for it.
It’s right there in front of you, you’re just avoiding it. For whatever reason, you’re avoiding it. You’re telling yourself, “Oh well, yeah, I love comic books but that doesn’t count. You can’t make money with comic books.”
Fuck you, have you even tried?
The problem is not a lack of passion for something. The problem is productivity. The problem is perception. The problem is acceptance.
The problem is the, “Oh, well that’s just not a realistic option,” or “Mom and Dad would kill me if I tried to do that, they say I should be a doctor” or “That’s crazy, you can’t buy a BMW with the money you make doing that.”
The problem isn’t passion. It’s never passion.
… A child does not walk onto a playground and say to herself, “How do I find fun?”
She just goes and has fun.
If you have to look for what you enjoy in life, then you’re not going to enjoy anything.
And the real truth is that you already enjoy something.
You already enjoy many things.
You’re just choosing to ignore them.
– Mark Manson
Mark makes a point that resonates with me when people tell me “I don’t have goals” or “I don’t want goals.”
The fact of the matter is – you already have them.
Look at how you spend your day. You get something done.
You spend your energy on something.
Whatever that something is may be productive in your eyes or a “waste of time.”
Either way – you put energy towards an outcome.
You may even have a timeline associated with that outcome.
The outcome may be grandiose or micro;
for today, for the week, or for the next three years;
it may be in work, in health, in finances, in personal growth, in love, in family, in impressing others, in proving someone wrong, in creating the future, or in fixing the past.
You may be succeeding or struggling in that outcome – yet the truth is, you are still generating an outcome.
That outcome may be aligned to bigger picture of your life – or it may be aligned to someone else’s. Someone else who hired you, asked for your help, or paid you to deliver services that helps them create an outcome.
Call that outcome a goal, an intention, a dream, a wish, a thing to do, or whatever will make you feel good about it.
You have goals.
And you may have goals that don’t work for you.
Outcomes intended to impress others, fix the past, or prove someone wrong rarely work long-term. Likewise, when the outcome you generate on a day-to-day basis isn’t connected to the bigger picture of your life, it can feel like a grind, like you’re a cog-in-the-wheel, and like it’s draining all your energy.
So if you’ve been addicted to goals that don’t work – I get why you don’t want more of those.
Stop doing what doesn’t work!
And – when you’re actually willing to admit that you want something great for your life and want ‘how you spend your time and money’ to be in support of the bigger picture of your life – then let’s chat.
We can even call it a “thing to do session” if you’re still allergic to the term “goal setting.”
Meet Matt. He is bold. He is always up for the adventure. He is your biggest fan.